Shifting Views: The Unseen Power of Perspective
Have you ever considered how a single moment can alter your perception of the world? Last week I was speaking at a conference. During one of the breaks, I spoke with one of the other…
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Breaking Free from the Past: How Men Can Navigate Life with Courage and Connection
Ever feel like you’re stuck in a loop, replaying your past mistakes and wondering why you’re not moving forward? I meet many men who feel this way—trapped by their past, regardless of their current success…
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The Importance of Emotional Granularity for Men
As men, we have had emotions conditioned out of us for most of our lives. The constant refrain from other men to “Suck it up” and “Be tough. Be Strong.” Any show of emotion other…
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Breaking Free from Negative Self-Talk: A Guide for Men
In a society where the stereotypical portrayal of masculinity encompasses stoicism and presenting an undaunted façade, addressing the issue of negative self-talk among men is rarely discussed. The truth is that in our quest to…
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Sinister 7 50 Miler
I just need a fucking win. That was the attitude I went into Sinister 7 with. In November of 2021 I took a fall on a training run and exacerbated a chronic hip/SI joint issue….
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How you do anything is how you do everything
“How you do anything is how you do everything.” This mantra has become front and center in my world of late. It is a reminder for me that there is no cheating the process. There…
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Cultivating Non-Judgmental Listening Skills: A Guide for Male Leaders in the Workplace
Steve (fictional name, true story) had fucked up in a big way. He knew it, and as the leader of the organization he worked for, I knew it too. What I did not know, however,…
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Men, It’s Time to Stop Hiding
Last week I had a beautiful reminder of one of the most important aspects of healing, in particular for men. I attended a fundraiser luncheon for the Little Warriors Be Brave Ranch. The Little Warriors…
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Cultivating Resilience in Your Team: A Leader’s Guide to Navigating Uncertainty
Four Ways to Build a Culture of Resilience I was 28 years old, at the peak of my career. I was making more money than I had in my life and, quite frankly, more than…
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Intentions Over Outcomes
I have written a bit on why I stopped using the term goal and shifted to a new paradigm of finding alignment with outcomes. Language matters. When I shift to setting an intention rather than obsessing about an outcome, I commit to how I am going to show up. I do not commit to a result that is often largely out of my control.
This mental shift has been incredibly liberating and a welcome way to remove unhealthy stress in my life. It doesn’t mean that I do not hold myself accountable to how I show up. It just means that commit to the process, not the result. The following story of an ultramarathon I ran Easter weekend was a great example of this concept.
